Last week I was invited to a local high school to give a lecture about ‘Life’. My audience was a group of high school students, mostly on house arrest. I had no idea what to talk about. Thank God two of my close friends, Sam and Andy, came over the night before my lecture to provide some much needed inspiration. They were on their way home from their internship with Assemblyman Felipe Fuentes. Not a bad gig for still being in community college. I made sure to let them know how lucky they were to be in a position to learn so much so soon, there are grad school students who would love to be in their position.
These two guys are incredible: young, motivated, and willing to do the hard work necessary to achieve dreams. My cousin Tank introduced me to these two a couple of years ago before they became interested in pursuing higher education, back when they were simply living life one day at a time. Tank and I have spent countless days tutoring, molding, mentoring, and just hanging out with these two young men. All of our efforts focused on the positive, not being preachy but being real. Tank and I basically wanted to help the next generation, offer up the life advice that we so desperately needed but never had at their age.
Sam and Andy told me about chatting it up with some local politicians and businessmen, using networking techniques to ask for their business cards with the intention of growing a sound professional network. Sam mentioned that he has had great success with reaching people simply because he is a student. Sam told me how he has been following up, asking question about political life, what it is these people do, and most importantly what he needs to do in order to be like them. I helped teach this kid this. It still amazes me when I think back a couple of short years ago, when Sam’s life was in a much different place, a cold, dark, and lonely place that I am all too familiar with. To paraphrase Carlito Brigante, “The streets are rough, they will eat you alive, spit you out. If you’re lucky you end up in a pine box, the unlucky ones end up paralyzed or wasting away in prison.” There is a difference today, my life is far removed from what I knew as a teenager and Sam and Andy are in the early stages of my old journey. I am proud that I have given a piece of myself so that one day Sam and Andy can achieve their dreams. I suddenly felt inspired to lecture tomorrow.
“Wishin’ I live my life a legend, immortalized in pictures
Why shed tears? Save your sympathy
My childhood years were spent buryin’ my peers in the cemetery
Here’s a message to the newborns, waitin’ to breathe
If you believe then you can achieve
Just look at me
Against all odds, though life is hard we carry on
Livin’ in the projects, broke with no lights on
To all the seeds that follow me
protect your essence
Born with less, but you still precious
Just smile for me now”
-Tupac Shakur, ‘Smile’
This song played randomly on my Ipod and the lyrics danced around my head as I sipped my coffee and sped up highway 14 on my way to Palmdale. This was definitely appropriate considering the audience I would be addressing. I remember the first time I ever lectured for Ms. Holladay, I was on my way to UCSB, and some of her ‘bad’ students were giving her a tough time. I decided to help out. I drove up to my old high school, met some students, and gave them a healthy dose of reality. These kids weren’t bad, just misguided, or in some cases unguided. I was a child myself, barely in my early twenties, the only thing I had going for me at the time was the fact that I did not have a criminal record, no kids, and was on my way to UCSB. Today my lecture would be much more intimate than before. Today was a follow up from a talk I gave at this time last year. Not all of Ms. Holladay’s students from last year where there, a couple managed to stay out of jail and had the privilege of attending R. Rex Parris High School instead of returning to juvenile hall or CYA.
My lecture last year focused on my application to grad school, how to begin the process of applying to undergrad, and most importantly what I did to get from Point A (their seats) to Point B (working at Neohire.com/Resumebucket.com) and living a life far removed from the one I knew as a teenager. Interestingly enough, Sam and Andy saw what I spoke about first hand as this was around the time we all really started hanging out. I remember explaining to them from my dining room table exactly what the GRE test was and the differences between the GRE, SATs, and LSATs.
Today I decided to speak on all the things I have accomplished since last year. I talked about nearly being robbed three times in South America, possibly getting killed/kidnapped in Buenos Aires, battling for my rights with Interpol agents, totaling my car, moving out of my apartment and squatting on my brother’s couch (for which I am grateful), my experiences at ‘Happy Camp’, my frustrations with adjusting to student life all over again, my chance meetings at the Global Climate Summit, my involvement with the Millennium Momentum Foundation, volunteering with Just Like You at Pacoima Elementary School, the amount of reading and writing I have done in the last few weeks, and why I would not change a thing in my life, both good and especially bad, if I could do it all over again as these experiences gave me valuable insights into how people from various walks of life function.
These young minds were full of comments, questions, and laughs as I did my best to get their attention by mixing in some slang, a couple of calculated curse words to maintain their attention, and some candid personal stories about growing up. I chose to end my discussion by speaking about the “Digital Footprint” and how what they do online today will impact the rest of their lives both professionally, academically, and most important legally.
Ms. Holladay has a student, I won’t mention his name because he is a minor, but I am proud of him. He has changed as much as he could in one year, from being a complete waste of space to becoming a model student. They both attribute this change to my lecture last year, my ability to reach the core of this student and shake him out of his comfort zone. It turned out that Ms. Holladay used emails and photographs that I sent her from my South American adventure as part of her daily lesson plans in class. This particular student told me that reading about my adventures, looking at my pictures, and researching the exotic locales inspired him to try harder in class. It is at moments like this when realize that my life is no longer my own. I realize that my words have a huge impact, my actions even more so. This student and I spoke at length after my lecture. He told me about what he plans to do after high school, attend community college, clean up his record, and apply to college. He said it best, “You did it, why can’t I?” He is absolutely right. I thought about those Tupac lyrics, they summed up my life then and now.
Unfortunately these feelings of accomplishment and the sense of purpose I felt after lecturing were short lived. What followed that evening set in motion events that would lead to one of the hardest personal challenge I have had in some time. I sent a text to Sam and Andy to let them know that I was planning on writing about them for my blog and that I wanted them to read my rough draft before cleaned it up and posted it on my blog. They couldn’t make it over to my apartment because they had already made plans for the evening. I left the invitation open and decided to head out with a couple of friends from the SPP program.
I received a series of text messages and phone calls around midnight last Friday, Sam and Andy had been shot. Sam was shot in the mouth at point blank range and Andy had been shot in the upper torso twice. My throat choked up, my heart dropped. I immediately sped to the hospital. I did my best to remain calm, but couldn’t help thinking the worst. What could have been a good night, a celebration of inspiration and positive impact on youth, took a turn for worse. I arrived at Holy Cross Hospital and saw that the ER was packed. There had been multiple shootings in Pacoima that night. My friends became another set of crime statistics.
I did my best to remain calm, I stayed at the hospital until about 4 am waiting to find out what had happened, waiting to get the status on my friends. I was still shocked, I had texted these guys earlier that night, had they come out with me chances are none of this would have happened. Had I been with them maybe I would be in the hospital bed next to them.
I spent the next week trying to study at the hospital. Needless to say I didn’t get much done. I had my books, my laptop, and my class notes. I just couldn’t focus. I hadn’t slept much since Friday and the wear and tear was showing. The only thing that kept me going was the fact that my cousin Tank experienced similar circumstances during his law school years at Pepperdine, if he could grind out the hard work while in the hospital so could I. I decided not to let this be an excuse for failure. I wanted to show Sam and Andy that nothing in life worth doing is ever easy. With dedication and hard work anything is possible and despite my state of mind, all the worry and fear, I would persevere. They have a long road to recovery ahead of them, Andy may never regain use of his right hand, Sam will likely undergo multiple surgeries to repair damage to his face and jaw, not to mention the psychological impact such traumatic events inevitably have on these guys. I would not be living up to expectations if I gave up in the face of such a small adversity relative to theirs. They needed to push forward and so did I.
I went straight to the hospital after class every day that week. I reviewed my notes for Professor Hawken’s midterm and HDI assignment while in the ICU waiting room and hospital cafeteria. I read Machiavelli’s “The Prince”, Marx’s “Communist Manifesto”, and my outline on “The Federalist Papers” in preparation for my upcoming paper for Professor Lloyd’s class. I kept pushing forward all the while worried about the condition of my friends. A little over a week has passed. Andy is now back at home, he is still recovering and Sam just had his second surgery to repair damage to his salivary glands. I pray that both make a speedy recovery and can get back to the normalcy of school and interning for Assemblyman Fuentes. As much as they may say I inspire them to succeed, today they inspire me to face adversity with courage.